Have you heard people say things like, “I just want to live a happy life, but it somehow seems out of my reach”… Some will even make such comments with tears rolling down their cheeks.
Life is short, and the least we deserve is to be happy, not just when we receive the paycheck or pass that exam, but every day and every time.
I found out that a joyous life is actually possible. However, to experience it, I had to let go of some habits first.
I’ll share them with you below so that you too, can enjoy the freedom of true happiness.
Let Go Of The Past
A lot of times, we allow the experiences of yesterday to influence our mood, and that’s not healthy at all. Matter of fact, if your past does not inspire you, dump it and move on.
Sometimes, when I’m easing into an exciting mood, a thought from my past could flash through my mind. Instead of laying back in disappointment, I immediately remind myself that there’s nothing I can do to fix yesterday. But I can do something today to ensure a greater tomorrow.
That’s me protecting my happiness!
We worry about everything- the future, bills, the past, etc. Yet, all my life, I have never for once heard that worrying and overthinking solved any problems.
But I’m aware that planning and taking action(or small steps towards a goal) consistently produce results.
Replace overthinking with proper planning and as you take those small or large steps, celebrate your progress.
Quit The Comparison
If no one has ever told you this, I might as well tell you that “You Are Enough!.”
Yes, I understand that there are qualities you see in others(could even be your mentor) that you wish you had, but that should NEVER make you feel inferior to them.
Be content with who you are and remind yourself that you’re growing into who you want to be.
If you think like this, you’ll be happier about your life, and others will feel at ease around you.
Let Go Of Toxic Friends
Who do you call your friends, and how do they really treat you?
If you have friends that only reach out to you when they have a need, be it emotional, financial, and so on, what you actually have are fake friends dumping their garbage on you.
Keep them at arm’s length, and you’ll be protecting your peace of mind.
Better still, find people who will stick with you come hell or high water, celebrate your wins and genuinely inspire you to succeed.
These are real friends.
You Cannot Please Everyone
The day I settled it in my heart that I cannot please everyone, I became a happier person. And found a more healthy way to relate with those around me.
People-pleasing will drain your energy and your joy; resist the urge to please others. Be accommodating, do what’s best for others as much as you can. But prioritize making yourself happy.
Other things you can do are to decide not to hold a grudge, ignore negative thoughts, avoid procrastination & setting unrealistic expectations.
I’m not saying these habits are very easy to imbibe, but if you choose to start practicing them, you’ll be far more happy and at peace with yourself.
What do you think about this?
Let me know in the comment section below; I’ll be happy to read your opinions.